The Legal Rights of Cohabiting Couples in England and Wales: What You Need to Know

My Ex-Partner Wants to Move Away with Our Children – What Are My Rights? When a relationship ends and children are involved, things can become more complicated—especially if one parent wants to move away. If your ex-partner is planning to relocate with your children, either within the UK or abroad, it’s important to understand your rights and what steps you can take under family law in England and Wales. Do They Need My Permission? Yes. If you have parental responsibility, your ex must have your consent before taking the children to live elsewhere—particularly if the move is overseas. Even moves within the UK, such as to another part of England or Wales, should be agreed upon by both parents if it significantly disrupts contact arrangements or the child’s schooling and support network. If you don’t agree, your ex must apply to the Family Court for a Specific Issue Order allowing the move. You can, in turn, apply for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent the move until the court decides what’s in the best interest of the child. How Does the Court Decide? The court’s main priority is the welfare of the child. Factors considered include: The reason for the move How the move will affect the child emotionally, socially, and educationally The impact on the child’s relationship with the non-moving parent The practicality and frequency of maintaining contact The court will not prevent a move simply to appease one parent—there must be strong evidence that it would negatively affect the child’s wellbeing. Can I Stop the Move? You cannot legally stop your ex from moving away unless you obtain a court order. However, if your child’s welfare could be harmed by the move, you can challenge it. It’s advisable to act quickly and seek legal advice. If you are concerned your ex may move without your consent, you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent any changes until the court considers the matter. What About My Contact with the Children? If the move is permitted, the court will usually put in place a Child Arrangements Order detailing how and when you’ll maintain contact. This might include: Extended holiday contact Regular video calls Weekend visits (if distance allows) The court aims to ensure the child continues to have a meaningful relationship with both parents, where safe and appropriate. Final Thoughts If your ex is considering moving away with your children, open communication and mediation are the first steps. If that fails, don’t delay in seeking legal advice. The courts do not automatically side with one parent—the focus is always on what is best for the child. Moving disputes can be emotional and complex, but with the right support, you can ensure your child’s best interests—and your rights as a parent—are protected. For family court representation and family law advice contact Stephanie Heijdra family barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk and 02071014682

Parental responsibility in England and Wales refers to the legal rights, duties, powers, and responsibilities a person has for a child. It includes making decisions about the child’s education, medical care, religion, and general welfare. Who automatically has parental responsibility? Mothers always have parental responsibility from birth. Fathers have it if they were married to the mother at the time of birth or are listed on the birth certificate (for births registered after 1 December 2003). Same-sex partners can also have parental responsibility, depending on their legal status and the circumstances of conception or adoption. How can others acquire parental responsibility? A person can gain parental responsibility through: A Parental Responsibility Agreement with the mother A court order Being appointed as a guardian Adoption Parental responsibility does not automatically give the right to contact with a child, nor does it mean a parent can make decisions alone—especially where there's a dispute. In cases of separation or divorce, both parents usually retain parental responsibility unless the court decides otherwise. For personalised family law advice and guidance, contact Stephanie Heijdra Family law Barrister, especially when co-parenting arrangements are unclear or contested. sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk and 02071014682

In divorce proceedings in England and Wales, the family court distinguishes between hard loans, soft loans, and gifts—each of which can significantly affect how assets are divided. Hard loans are formal, legally enforceable debts, often documented with written agreements, repayment terms, or evidence of payments. The court is more likely to include hard loans as genuine liabilities when calculating the net assets of the parties. Soft loans , by contrast, are informal financial arrangements—often between family members or friends—without clear repayment expectations. Courts frequently treat these as non-enforceable or gifts, especially if there’s no documented intention or expectation of repayment. Gifts , whether monetary or non-monetary, are typically seen as non-returnable and are rarely factored in as liabilities. Understanding these distinctions is vital in financial remedy proceedings. A party claiming that they owe money to a family member must prove it is a hard loan to have it deducted from the marital pot. The burden of proof lies with the person making the claim. If you’re facing divorce, it’s essential to seek legal advice to clarify what qualifies as a liability and how it could impact your financial settlement. Early advice can make a significant difference. For family law advice regarding child arrangements matters, divorce and matrimonial finance, and family court representation, contact Stephanie Heijdra direct access family barrister via shejidra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk or 02071014682

A Look at X (Father) v Y (Mother) [2025] EWFC 62 (B) In X (Father) v Y (Mother) [2025] EWFC 62 (B), the Family Court confronted the delicate balance between a child's welfare and parental rights amidst serious allegations of abuse. Background The case centred on a five-year-old girl, referred to as A, whose parents were embroiled in a contentious dispute over child arrangements. The father, acting without legal representation, sought a shared care order, proposing that A live with him on alternating weeks. Conversely, the mother aimed to change A's surname and restrict the father's contact, citing a history of abuse. Findings of Fact A pivotal aspect of the proceedings was a fact-finding hearing to assess the veracity of the mother's allegations. The court found that: The father had subjected the mother to multiple instances of sexual abuse between 2015 and 2017. The mother's claims of financial abuse and gaslighting were unsubstantiated. These findings significantly influenced the court's decisions regarding contact and parental responsibility. Court's Decision Given the substantiated abuse, the court determined that overnight contact between A and her father would be unsafe. Instead, alternative contact arrangements were ordered, with further assessments to be conducted in subsequent hearings. Additionally, the court considered the mother's request to change A's surname and her application for a Section 91(14) order to prevent the father from making further applications without court permission. Implications This case highlights the court's commitment to prioritizing a child's safety and well-being, especially when serious allegations of abuse are substantiated. It also illustrates the court's cautious approach in balancing parental rights with the need to protect vulnerable parties. Note: This summary is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. For specific legal guidance, consult a qualified family law solicitor. For family law advice and family court representation, please contact Stephanie Heijdra Public Access Family Barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk and 02071014682

Cross-Border Child Abduction and the Hague Convention – Insights from FC v MS [2025] EWHC 1030 (Fam)  In the recent High Court decision of FC v MS [2025] EWHC 1030 (Fam), the court addressed the complexities of international child abduction under the 1980 Hague Convention. The case involved a father's application for the summary return of his 7-year-old son, DC, to the Republic of Ireland, following the child's removal to England by his mother, MS. Background DC was born and raised in Ireland, where both parents resided. In June 2024, MS relocated to England with DC and another child, citing concerns over the father's alleged abusive behaviour, substance misuse, and criminal history. The father, FC, contested the removal and sought DC's return under the Hague Convention, asserting that the child was wrongfully removed from his habitual residence. Legal Framework The 1980 Hague Convention aims to protect children from international abduction by providing a mechanism for their prompt return to their country of habitual residence. Under Article 13(b) of the Convention, a court may refuse to order the return of a child if it is established that returning the child would expose them to a grave risk of physical or psychological harm. Court's Analysis The court examined the mother's defenses under Article 13(b), focusing on the alleged risks posed by the father's behaviour and the potential impact on DC's well-being. Evidence presented included: Testimony from Dr. Ratnam, assessing MS's mental health and the potential consequences of returning to Ireland. Reports from social worker Ms. Demery, indicating that DC expressed a desire to return to Ireland and that no immediate risk to him was identified. The court concluded that while concerns existed regarding both parents' past behaviours, the evidence did not meet the threshold of "grave risk" required under Article 13(b). Protective measures available in Ireland were deemed sufficient to mitigate potential risks. Outcome The court ordered the return of DC to the Republic of Ireland, emphasizing the importance of upholding international agreements to deter child abduction. Arrangements were made for DC's re-enrolment in school and for maintaining contact with his mother through appropriate means. Implications This case underscores the challenges courts face in balancing the objectives of the Hague Convention with the individual circumstances of each case. It highlights the necessity for substantial evidence when invoking exceptions to the Convention's mandate for the prompt return of abducted children. For family law advice and family court representation contact Stephanie Heijdra Family Barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk or 02071014682

 In the recent High Court decision of X v Y [2025] EWHC 727 (Fam), the court examined whether a financial remedy order could be revisited due to a significant change in circumstances occurring after judgment but before the order was sealed. Background Following a three-day final hearing in December 2023, HHJ Spinks delivered a reserved judgment awarding the husband 62.5% of the net proceeds from the former matrimonial home, citing his lower earning capacity and housing needs. However, three weeks post-judgment, the husband's father passed away, leaving him an estimated £1 million interest held in trust. The wife sought to reopen the judgment, arguing that this inheritance substantially altered the husband's financial position and that fairness required a more equitable division. Legal Framework The wife's application was considered under the principles established in In the matter of L and B [2013] UKSC 8 and AIC Ltd v Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria [2022] UKSC 16. These cases affirm that while courts have discretion to alter a judgment before the final order is perfected, the principle of finality is paramount, especially in financial remedy cases. Any application to revisit a judgment must meet a high threshold, demonstrating that the new evidence would have had a significant impact on the original decision and that it could not have been obtained with reasonable diligence at the time. Court's Decision Mr Justice Trowell dismissed the wife's appeal, upholding the original decision. The court found that: The inheritance was uncertain, tied up in a trust, and not immediately accessible. The judge had already considered the likelihood of future family support. Reopening the case would result in significant delay, cost, and stress. The husband's trust interest, while valuable, did not clearly eliminate his current financial need. The court emphasized the importance of finality in financial remedy cases and the need for parties to bring forward all relevant information during the initial proceedings. Implications This case underscores the challenges of reopening financial remedy orders based on post-judgment events. Even significant changes, such as a substantial inheritance, may not be sufficient if the new information does not fundamentally alter the financial landscape considered during the original judgment. Practitioners should advise clients on the importance of thorough disclosure during proceedings and the limited scope for revisiting orders once judgments are delivered. For family law advice and, or family court representation contact Stephanie Heijdra Family Barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk or 02071014682

The recent case of FI v DO [2024] EWFC 384 (B) has garnered attention for its nuanced approach to pet ownership disputes in divorce proceedings. Traditionally, pets have been treated as personal property (chattels) under UK law. However, this case highlights a shift towards considering the welfare and emotional bonds associated with pets when determining their placement post-separation. Background FI and DO were married in December 2010 and separated in November 2022. They have two children, born in 2011 and 2017, who reside with their mother, DO. A significant point of contention during their financial remedy proceedings was the custody of their golden retriever, N. The Dispute Over N FI claimed to have purchased N for £1,200 and later registered her as a disability support dog to assist with his mental health challenges. He sought a declaration of ownership and a shared care arrangement. Conversely, DO contended that N was a joint family purchase, with contributions from herself and their daughter. She emphasized her role as the primary caregiver since the separation and expressed concerns over an incident where FI forcibly took N from her mother during a walk, leading to police involvement and reported injuries to the dog. Court's Considerations District Judge Crisp evaluated several factors: Primary Caregiver : DO had been the sole caregiver for N for 18 months post-separation. Emotional Bonds : N's close relationship with DO and the children was evident, especially when N ran back to the family home after the aforementioned incident. Welfare of the Dog : The court prioritized N's well-being, noting that uprooting her from her established environment would be detrimental. The judge remarked, "The dog's home is with the wife, and she should stay there. It would be upsetting for both the dog and the children were those arrangements to alter." Outcome The court ruled in favour of DO retaining custody of N. Additionally, DO was awarded 69.23% of the net proceeds from the sale of the family home, reflecting her primary role in caring for the children and the dog. The court also acknowledged the unnecessary legal costs incurred due to FI's actions, particularly concerning the dispute over N. Implications This case underscores a progressive approach in family law, recognizing pets as integral family members rather than mere property. It sets a precedent for considering the emotional and welfare aspects of pets in divorce proceedings, aligning legal decisions more closely with the realities of modern family dynamics. For individuals navigating similar disputes, this case highlights the importance of demonstrating a consistent caregiving role and the emotional bonds shared with the pet. It also emphasizes the court's willingness to consider the broader family context, especially the impact on children, when making decisions about pet custody. For Family Law Advice and family court representation contact Stephanie Heijdra Family barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk or 02071014682

Which is Right for Your Family Court Case? When dealing with a family court matter, understanding your options for support is key. Two common choices are a McKenzie Friend or a family barrister — but they’re not the same. This simple guide explains the difference so you can decide what’s best for your situation. ✅ What is a McKenzie Friend? A McKenzie Friend is someone who supports you in court when you’re representing yourself. They don’t need legal qualifications and are not allowed to speak in court, but they can: Sit beside you in the courtroom Help organise your documents Take notes and offer quiet guidance Provide emotional reassurance Some are friends or relatives. Others offer paid support, often with experience in family law. 🎓 What is a Family Barrister? A family barrister is a fully qualified legal expert who can: Give family law advice, legal advice Represent you in court Speak directly to the judge on your behalf Prepare legal arguments and documents They’re regulated by the Bar Standards Board, and many can be instructed directly — without needing a solicitor — under the Public Access Scheme also known as Direct Access barristers. ⚖️ Quick Comparison: McKenzie Friend vs Family Barrister Feature McKenzie Friend Family Barrister | -------------------- | ------------------------ | ------------------------------------ | Legal qualification Not required Yes – fully qualified Can speak in court No (unless judge allows) Yes Regulated No Yes (Bar Standards Board) Legal advice Informal only Professional, legally binding advice Court representation Support only Full representation Cost Usually lower Higher, but expert-led Suitable for Simple, low-risk cases Complex or sensitive matters 🧐 Which One Do I Need? Choose a McKenzie Friend if: You’re confident representing yourself The case is straightforward You need emotional or organisational support Your budget is limited Choose a Family Barrister if: The case involves children, abuse, or serious allegations You need someone to speak for you The law is unclear or disputed You want family law advice, strong legal strategy and representation 💡 Can I Use Both? Some people use a McKenzie Friend early on and bring in a family barrister for key hearings. If you go this route, make sure your McKenzie Friend is trustworthy and transparent about their experience — the court can question their involvement. 🏁 Final Word Choosing between a McKenzie Friend vs Family Barrister is about more than cost — it’s about getting the right support at the right time. If in doubt, get legal advice before making your decision. Your outcome in family court may depend on it. Need family law advice or representation? Stephanie Heijdra offers both 👉 Contact her today for a confidential chat. sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk

CAFCASS and Grandparents’ Rights: What You Need to Know When families break down, it’s not only parents and children who feel the effects. Grandparents often find themselves cut off, even though they’ve played a central role in a child’s life. So where does CAFCASS come into the picture — and what are a grandparent’s rights when contact is suddenly lost? Do Grandparents Have Automatic Rights? In short: no. Under current UK law, grandparents don’t have an automatic legal right to see their grandchildren. This can come as a shock, especially to those who’ve been closely involved in childcare or regular visits. However, this doesn’t mean you’re powerless. Applying for Contact Through the Courts If informal efforts to restore contact have failed — whether due to a family dispute, separation, or bereavement — grandparents can apply to the family court for permission to seek a Child Arrangements Order . This is sometimes referred to as “applying for contact”. Before doing so, you’ll usually need to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) . This gives all parties a chance to resolve matters without going straight to court. What Role Does CAFCASS Play? If your application reaches the court, CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) may become involved — particularly if the case is contested or complex. CAFCASS officers are appointed to represent the child’s welfare, not either side. They might: Carry out background checks Interview family members Talk to the child, if appropriate Provide a report to the court with recommendations While CAFCASS can’t make legal decisions themselves, their input is often influential. The court takes their assessments seriously, especially where safeguarding or emotional well-being is concerned. What Will the Court Consider? When deciding whether to grant contact, the court looks at several factors, including: The existing relationship between the grandparent and child The reasons for any breakdown in contact Whether continued involvement is likely to benefit the child Any risks or concerns raised by the parents The child’s best interests remain the top priority — and if the court believes that seeing their grandparent would be good for them, it can make an order to reflect that. Practical Steps for Grandparents If you’re a grandparent struggling to maintain contact, here are a few things to consider: Try to resolve things informally first – A calm conversation or a written message can sometimes reopen doors. Consider mediation – Many issues can be sorted with the help of a neutral third party. Keep communication respectful – Even if emotions are running high, staying measured improves your chances of being heard. Be prepared for the process – If court becomes necessary, make sure you understand the steps, including CAFCASS involvement. Final Thoughts The idea of fighting for contact with your grandchildren can feel overwhelming — but you’re not alone. Many grandparents find themselves in this situation, and the system does offer routes to re-establish meaningful relationships. While CAFCASS doesn’t grant rights directly , its role in advising the family court is crucial. If you do reach that stage, their involvement helps ensure that decisions are made with care, balance, and — most importantly — the child’s well-being in mind. For family law advice and, or family court representation contact Stephanie Heijdra - Family Barrister via sheijdra@winvolvedlegal.co.uk 02071014682